New Mama Struggles: No Photos
I know I look tired, my hair’s a mess and I’ve been wearing the same clothes for three days, but please take a photo of me kissing my baby. There are no photos of me.
Any other mamas feel like they work really hard to capture their babies, families and partners but no one does the same in return?
I was looking for a photo of me with Evie and Poppy the other day and started crying. The only photos I have with my babies are shitty selfies. I want a mama photo of me holding my baby lovingly or cuddling or laughing, anything except a double chin and a horrible angle. I do love the selfies, they are still capturing a wonderful moment in time, but you try and take a selfie with two babies.
Feeling frustrated and upset, I didn’t know what to do. Why was I working hard to capture all of these special moments for everyone else and no one could do the same for me? How could there be no photos of me?
You know what I did? I reached out to Mark, my mom, my mother in law and my friends to ask them, if they were inspired in the moment to take a picture of me with Evie and Poppy I would be very grateful. Letting them know I try really hard to capture all their moments and I would appreciate the same. No one had done anything wrong, I was simply asking them to be aware moving forward.
What do you think? Bitchy or Honest?
Well, let’s be honest for a moment, NOTHING CHANGED. I still had to constantly remind or ask Mark to take photos of me. Same went for our family. How could no one see that I wanted these special or simple moments capture as I’d done for them? Every time someone came to visit I’d share a couple photos of them with Evie and Poppy. Sometimes I was asked to take photos of others. Yet I sat there with my babies, visit after visit, day after day with nothing in return.
This made me so angry. These are my only children. I will never have a baby again. I’ve waited 40 years to be here and I have no photos to show for it. Except a few awful selfies and some horrid photos Mark took. (I am not simply saying this, when I showed Mark the few photos he took, compared to the ones I took of him, he agreed they were bad.) I will never get that time back. Even now when we look through baby photos Evie and Poppy will ask where I am, so I tell them I am taking the photos.
This breaks my heart. I know I will have the memories and photos I’ve taken of Evie and Poppy but there’s something about seeing yourself in photos with your babies, knowing how difficult that time was but also how magical.
If you want to be in photos with your baby and this is something that’s important to you. I’ve created a free Photography Ebook you can share with your partner and family. Perfect for the holidays! Lol.
